Parents want their children to make progress and study hard. The most important thing is to find ways to let children learn from the heart and take the initiative to do what they should do. If parents often say to their children, "I'll give you whatever you do," it's easy for children to feel that everything he does is for their parents; The purpose of doing these things is to get tangible benefits.

1. Parents should not reward their children with materials.

In the process of children's growth, parents' affirmation, encouragement and recognition are very important. However, parents should also pay attention to the fact that it is best to affirm and encourage children in a spirit-oriented and healthy way.

If parents often reward their children with material things, children will mistakenly think that "money is everything" and blindly worship money. Parents use money or material to seduce and demand their children, then the child's self-motivation and sense of responsibility will easily disappear and become particularly "realistic."

A good boy is not a material reward, but a praise. Therefore, parents usually care more about their children and often praise their correct behavior, which is easier to stimulate their learning motivation, correct their learning attitude and form a good character.

Second, prepare some unexpected surprises for children.

In fact, giving children some material rewards can also play an encouraging role as long as the way is correct. However, I like children's daily behaviors, such as eating carefully, packing toys and studying hard. These are all things that children should do and can do well. There is no need to give him a special reward, let alone use it to ask him to cooperate.

However, if the child does something that he has never done before without parents' request, then parents can prepare a small gift for the child and surprise him.

For example, when a four-year-old child washes his socks for the first time, his mother can take the opportunity to give him a small gift. At the same time, the mother should tell her children that she rewards them because they have made progress and learned to wash their own socks.

Mother's practice, neither talks about conditions with children, nor promises the future, but also expresses love for children, so it can promote children's self-motivation.

Third, prepare a "red star list" for children.

If the child is young and has not yet attended primary school, then parents can imitate the method of kindergarten and prepare a "red star list" for their children, so that this "list" can inspire their children to make progress.

Parents can make a "red star list", write their children's names on it and post their photos. If the child has learned something or done something right, parents can praise the child and stick a red star on the "Red Star List" in front of the child.

Every once in a while, parents can count the red stars with their children, see how many red stars their children have got, and remember how they got them with their children. In this way, children will feel very happy and proud. This practice can also play a role in encouraging children.

Precautions:

As parents, we should not only strive to create a good living environment for our children, but also teach them to treat money correctly. When encouraging children, we should give them spiritual affirmation and encouragement.

When children make progress, we must give them some encouragement, such as language or small gifts.