As we discussed earlier, there are two contrasting children in Hunan Satellite TV's "Teenagers' Talk" program.

A boy was sent by his mother to learn boxing since he was a child. He is depressed because of the man who is always beaten. He shouted to his mother, "I really don't want to learn boxing anymore!" What I really want to learn is street dance. "

A girl from a primary school passed 12 in Latin dance. Because of the decline in grades, her mother thought it was a pot for learning to dance and wouldn't let her learn. She had a difficult negotiation with her mother in order to continue learning dance.

Therefore, for parents, interest classes are not simply to find the "best"; But how to help a child find what he really likes? When he wants to give up, he knows how to help him stick to it.

Speaking of which, I really have some experiences to share with you.

1, the selection criteria of interest classes: choose the ones that make parents happy!

Does this standard surprise you? However, this is not the happiness of expecting your child to get Grade 10 in the piano exam in the future, but the happiness that you and your child can enjoy now in the interest class. Many parents think that interest classes should of course choose what children like. However, after taking the child to various test classes, I found that he liked all the experience classes; After the real registration, he always refuses to go!

In fact, children at this stage are easily interested in one thing. The fresh and interesting audition class can certainly attract his attention. But for preschool children, the significance of arousing interest is far greater than mastering a certain skill.

Therefore, I am a little selfish about enrolling children in interest classes: on the one hand, adults will be more relaxed, on the other hand, I think children need more opportunities to get in touch with new things. If conditions permit, it will be a good thing to have a more professional person to help you play with him more professionally.

So what kind of interest class should I choose? The answer is: regardless of painting, dancing, Lego and roller skating, as long as parents are in a good state of mind, the most important thing is that they are close to home and convenient to pick up and drop off, then they can go to any class.

Key points: children can accept it, institutions and teachers can inspect it reliably, and the pressure of picking up and dropping off is small near home, which is within the economic ability.

The latter two conditions are often ignored, but they are very important: whether it is distance or process, children will not be too painful, and parents will not be too painful; Treating money like dirt is a necessary psychology for parents to attend interest classes-once you think about whether this 1 hour is worth it 180 in every class, you will inevitably chase after your children and ask them what they have learned. Needless to say, in order not to waste money or even dare to arrange trips and vacations, the quality of life of the whole family will be seriously affected.

2. The challenge of interest classes to children: looking for lasting internal drive.

Choose an interest class, you are tired; But the real challenge is that children are tired when they refuse to go.

For example, I signed up for a street dance class for rice cakes, and he always liked it. Sometimes he will say: I don't want to go to class again; After taking him to class, he will say I want to dance for a while; Although he usually hates performing in front of people, he was very happy on the day of the performance.

In the face of children's willfulness, parents are always confused: how can we teach him to "persist" in this matter?

Many parents worry that if their children refuse to go, they will be forced to go, which will not cause him a psychological shadow. How to judge at this time depends more on the performance of the child after attending the interest class, and cannot be based on his performance before going. If he is relaxed every time he attends, he is happy when he comes out, and it doesn't matter if he is bored occasionally.

Guiding children to persist is another aspect of the meaning of interest classes, which is also irregular. In fact, whether children can persist depends largely on how parents guide them.

Although I don't know if he can face setbacks and want to give up after he really starts. But I am certain that no matter what happens, I will take him to find the courage to break through the predicament.

3. The challenge of interest classes to parents: What should you do?

For interest classes, I can't list the specific selection criteria like 1234. Because every child is different, before the child is 6 years old, parents can be a little Buddhist. As long as the environment for children is equal and respectful, he can naturally express his hobbies clearly when he is older.

It is important that no matter what class you enroll in, parents should be clear: whether I am ready for this; Have you thought clearly about the purpose of my teaching children (this purpose must not be utilitarian)?

Speaking of which, I really had a painful experience-

My parents asked me to learn erhu when I was a child. The reason is rude. The school's folk band enrolled students, and the teacher thought I "looked smart" and let me go. Then I was inexplicably assigned to the erhu group, bought a piano, and started.

Although teachers and parents also asked my advice at that time, "Do you want to learn? If you want to learn, buy an erhu. " However, I don't know what this "wanting to learn" means to me! In fact, my parents are ungrateful and can't give me any guidance. They just think that "since they bought it, they always practice" and "everyone practices very well", and then put an alarm clock every day to let me practice for an hour. This inexplicable and boring and painful experience of practicing the piano has now become the shadow of my life (perhaps the shadow of my neighbors).

So you see, how easy it is to choose interest classes for children! The real challenge is: you have to understand that this is really not just a matter for children, but a life challenge that parents have to accompany their children to complete. Only by preparing yourself can you take your child to overcome challenges when he is facing difficulties; Only by treating the interest class as a boat with children, will it not become a stone that weighs you and your children.

You have to believe that everything he contacts and learns hides the key to future hope and the seeds of future success.